THE DATING GUIDE Part 3

by Jeffrey Hilton

Imagine I told you the next person you went on a date with would be the person you marry. You go on your next date and the person wasn’t what you were expecting. Would you still marry that person?

Dates have become a very rare thing. If a single person goes on a date they may wonder if they will ever have another opportunity to go on another date. Many haven’t been on a date for a year or more. Many believe their next date is their last shot at finding a spouse. For some this causes them to raise their standards too high and others to lower their standards too low.

Everyone has lists of attributes they would like to find in a spouse and are trying to make those they date fit those attributes. I have been on dates where I have been asked strange questions. I can see by the look on their faces that I’ve been given a test question. Whether or not we have a romantic future all comes down to this question. I cross my fingers and give an answer. If I answer correctly I catch my breath and relax until thrown another question of equal weight.

I try to keep my list short and flexible. If I’m on a date I look for traits I like in that person. If I have met someone with a good attribute then I know it is a reachable attribute.

Maybe what is required is two lists or guides. If we each had one dating guide and one marrying guide we wouldn’t have to worry about whether or not to marry someone before a first date. We could meet a lot of different people through going on dates with them and learn from them without having to judge immediately whether or not they are marriage-material.

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